Moris Beracha.- The world today has a component that usually takes our lives without our realizing it, making us losing our sense of what we really have to do and enjoy.
While I was reading the book “The now effect” by Elisha Goldstein, I found a very simple but useful list that made me think about how much space and time of our lives we lose because we are not in the mindfulness state we need to be able to overcome the day-to-day difficulties, whether physical, psychological or emotional.
It only requires that we have a few minutes available to think and gradually internalize some very simple practices that would help us live much more fully.
Goldstein recommends in the first place approaching the day-to-day things and facts with curiosity and tasting them, living them. It is useless to ignore the experiences that we find difficult to face; we can always find a positive side. In the case of wonderful things that happen to us we must accept them with joy but we must always kindly observe them carefully and attentively without judging.
A second recommendation is forgiving your mistakes whether big or small. Guilt is considered one of the most exhausting limitations from the emotional and psychological point of view. Often it is the factor that prevents us from advancing in life not only in the personal sphere but also professional. Errors must be seen as experiences, even though they have brought terrible consequences for us or for our environment. It is essential to overcome them through inner forgiveness. This is the only way to free ourselves from this tie that thwarts us in our attempt to advance on the road to awareness.
The author of “The now effect” recommends showing gratitude in good times and honoring bad times. Sometimes we forget to thank the good times, the beautiful details, the beauty of simple things, blessings, health and in reality the great and small things that happen to us in life make that transit special. Sometimes we submerge ourselves in states of discomfort and fail to recognize the wonderful things we have or are around us. That gratitude reminder helps us become aware of it. When things do not go well, always honor that moment and try to hold on to the FAITH that everything bad sooner or later happens. Nothing in life is permanent; it is a process of constant change.
Likewise, the author recommends practicing compassion and feeding connections. The other human being is part of us. The universe is a whole; thinking that what affects the other does not affect you is not having the awareness that we are part of one body. Compassion is to recognize that in the other there is a part of you, it is the ability to establish that connection as human beings and to help each other. The common welfare multiplies the collective welfare state.
“Make peace with the imperfections within you and without you.” How you see yourself, perceive yourself or how you feel about yourself and around you are essential to achieve inner serenity. No one of us is perfect. All human beings must deal with different things, whether real or imaginary from childhood at each step. You have to let go of all the beliefs that lead us to think that there is something that is not right with us. Acceptance helps us to feel good inside and with the world. Hold, breathe, give thanks to existence for who you are and accept that all the gifts you have are enough to overcome any situation.
Goldstein tells us that the sixth principle is to embrace your vulnerabilities by trusting in others and in yourself. We are not almighty; there are times when we simply cannot do it alone. This is where we must learn to trust others. While there are people who will hurt you, there is someone who will be there to help you, to trust in him, to accompany you, to be in solidarity with you. It is a chain of favors between all the others and yourself. Being aware that we are vulnerable and that there are times when we can fall are not a sign of weakness but spiritual strength to cope with any situation.
Finally, Goldstein touches on a fundamental point to leave behind everything mundane, which is to accept and appreciate that everything comes and goes. Nothing is definitive in life; hence the need to have the wisdom to enjoy everything including emotions, loved ones, material things, time and space. We must always be present and think that life is now.